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December 8, 2010

Self Improvement

Filed under: Interesting and Useful Topics — dydara @ 11:41 pm
Personal Development

Personal Development

In this section of the blog you will find self improvement tips that focus on understanding, developing and improving the very core of who you are.

One of the most important topics in this section are the self improvement tips on self esteem.

I consider self esteem to be the very foundation of self improvement, as without a genuine and healthy level of self esteem the rest of your life will be adversely affected.

In the success skills section you will find self improvement tips on some key success principles that will allow you to live your life to its maximum potential.

Since many people fail to achieve success because they give up on their goals too soon and become distracted by other tasks, the self improvement tips on self discipline and goal setting are the most important tips in this section.

“There is always room for improvement,” isn’t there? And what better than improving oneself? Here is a large collection of select quotations exploring the various dimensions of self improvement – its trials and tribulations, its rewards and purpose.

So you want to be successful in life? Is that what you want? Then you better stop failing and become aware of these 10 ways to fail in life.

You see, I’ve been asked many times for how to achieve success and weird enough, seems like nobody’s taking that advice seriously. Then I realized one thing – most people are ALREADY failing before they even got started!

The article I wrote below is slightly controversy compare to the normal goodie-type personal development advice because this is the TRUTH. If I want to keep everyone happy and write about the colorful rainbow, birds chirping, flowers blooming, etc then I should just opens up a nursery home and take care of children. I want to tell you the truth straight to your face because I’ve been there and heard the garbage lies thrown everywhere.

Avoid these and you’ll automatically be on the right track (provided you want to be successful)…

1. Mixing With Losers
It’s a guaranteed way to fail in life with this. Whatever you like to do, losers will just tell you it won’t work and after some time, you will also become a loser. High five, welcome to the losers’ club. Something about losers you should know:they like to ‘recruit’ new people and are very comfortable in their shoes. They don’t welcome Changes. So when you see someone with any of these two characteristics, you know what you should do.

2. Don’t Know What You Want
The most common goal I hear all of the time is, “I want to be rich”. I mean it’s fine with that generic goal but the problem is, how rich do you want to be? Or how rich is rich? Put it this way – the methods used to make a million and $3,000 are different. No wonder some people couldn’t experience breakthroughs in life because they are playing small for big goals. If you want to make a million, you better put in that level of commitment.

3. You Want Everything
It’s nice to have a lot of things but if you go chasing everything, you get nothing. Let me tell you why – you only have 24 hours a day and you’ve got to focus on your priorities. I know, I know, you can hire others and so on but the fact is, you’ve got to want ‘something’ first to lead to another ‘something’, then to everything. Make sense?

4. Watching the “Secrets” Way Too Much
I’m not here to criticize Law Of Attractions (LOA) and don’t want to receive hate emails. As a matter of fact, I do believe in it and have friends who appeared in the Secrets. But it’s a surefire way to fail if you keep on watching the “Secrets” and doing ‘attraction’ by sitting down on your floor manifesting 3 hours a day. In my point of view, scientifically, Law of Attraction runs on the concept of ‘believing’. When you believe you can achieve your goal, you will take actions to actually achieve it but if you don’t understand this basic element and think LOA is some sort of miracle remedy, oh boy, you’re in for a big surprise for failure.

5. You Don’t Truly Know Why You Want Success
Wanting everything is bad enough – but it gets even worse if you don’t even know the reason why you’re trying to achieve your goal. What’s the deal? Without a solid reason, a compelling reason, where are you going to find the motivation and encouragement for you to overcome obstacles? You think it’s going to be fun ride to success? Then you haven’t been traveling – it’s a rocky road, my friend. Most people failed to achieve their goals because they never complete the journey– they give up half way (or at the beginning) because they cannot see the worth of accomplishments.

6. You Don’t Remember Your Roots
The thing I get most irritated about is people who achieved success and never felt gratitude towards those who have helped them. Is it very hard to say, ‘thank you’? The law of reciprocity is simple – you return favors to those who helped you in the past. And maybe, they’ll help you again in the future. Remember this- it takes more than just you to achieve success, so don’t be a bad person.

7. You Think You’re Smart
The day you stop learning is the day you stop improving yourself. If you don’t want to fail in life, make you sure you stop acting as though you already know everything. The fact is, all successful people are people who continuously learn to be even more successful. They don’t stop. Let me put it in this perspective – you don’t know what you don’t know, you know?

8. You Listen To The Wrong People
I watched this funny movie called, “He Is Just Not That Into You” and it just reaffirmed what I’m about to tell you. At the beginning of the movie, it shows a clip of a boy pushing a girl in the playground because he somehow doesn’t like her. He thinks she smells like dog pooh. She cried and asked her mum why did the boy do that to her. And her mum replied, “It’s because boys do that to girls when they like you.” Do yourself a favor, don’t get wrong advice. It’ll stick in your brain and lead you to make stupid interpretations in life.

9. You Think Short Term
You’ll hear this happening often in many ‘successful’ people’s stories – make a lot of money to lose it all. This probably because they became too comfortable and the other thing is, once you achieve success, you should ride on the wave when the momentum is there. When you think short term, you’re only going after the instant pleasure. You must learn to master ‘delay gratification’ so that you can enjoy your today’s labor.

10. You’re Blinded With What Is Important In Life
I believe there are only two things that are important in your life – control of time and experiencing happiness. Money, love, big cars, diamonds, etc are the things that contribute to these 2 benchmarks of successes. For instance, if you have money, you don’t need to work so that you can have more time to do the things you like. It’s not the money that you’re trying to get but what the money CAN DO FOR YOU. I know this topic is bigger than one sentence explanation but I guess you get the point. You’re a smart fella.

So now you know the 10 ways to fail in life. Question is, are you doing any of these? I’m human dude, flesh and blood – I do mistakes too.

But I was fortunate to experience my fair share of success today because I learn powerful lessons from other successful people…

“It’s okay to fail and you should fail as many times as you can. That is how you learn but more importantly, you should never give up – each time you get kick dirt in your face, wash your face and ‘fight’ back. Don’t go crying like a sissy because Mum’s not going to come cleaning your face.”

Are you ready? Go get your goals.

Be you.

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.”

Just being yourself is a hard thing to do. You may do it sometimes. And other times you may forget or fall back into old thought patterns. Or you may imitate someone else.

And that comes through too. And it may work.

Self Improvement Quotes for a Better You

Belief Quotes

Belief or the lack of it can be the source of or the end of your inspiration. Open your minds with these valuable quotes on belief. When you begin to believe, you begin to learn.

Confidence Quotations

If you are lacking in confidence, here’s what you can do. Enrich yourself with these famous quotes on confidence and see how they change your mental makeup. Soon enough, you will be marching towards your goal with zeal and vigor.

Control Quotes

Thomas Edison quotes “What man’s mind can create, man’s character can control.” Get inspired with these powerful quotations on control. And discover your true self within.

Desire Quotes

Desire can be good; desire can be bad. It is entirely our call. If you are not sure, rely on great thinkers who have penned down a few words of inspiration for you.

Determination Quotations

Grit your teeth, clasp your fists and get set to work. However, if you lack motivation, read this collection. A generous dose of motivational quotes on determination will be adequate to get you started.

Quotes: Excuses

Do you find yourself making excuses when you don’t perform? Shed the facade and face reality. Excuses are the losers’ way out. They will mar your credibility and stunt your personal growth.

Inspirational Quotes on Getting Better

Somebody once said “The biggest room in the world is the room for improvement.” Make room in your life for improvement. And if you think you are already very good, look closely. You might still want to tweak a few things to make you better.

Inspirational Quote on Habit

Most of us have been through a phase of attempting to kick out a bad habit. If you are like many others, you were probably not able to do so. Why are habits so deep seated? Are you battling with yourself on giving up a bad habit? Here are some inspirational quotes on habits. These might just do the trick.

Inspirational Quotes on Haste

Try to do things slow and you never complete the task. Try to do things fast and you ruin the task in haste. The secret is to be efficient and effective. Read this collection of quotes on haste. Read slowly, or you might miss the message.

Hope Quotations

Hope is the energy that feeds the soul. Hope can even work miracles. These quotes on hope will show you how you can create your own miracles.

Quotes on Making A Difference

If each drop of water in the ocean contributes to making a difference, imagine how much you can contribute to making a difference in this world? If you are seeking inspiration to contribute to this world, this is the right time to start.

Inspirational Quotations about Overcoming Failure

When you read this vast collection of quotes on overcoming failure, one message will echo back to you loud and clear: Don’t accept failure!

Temptation Quotes

Aristotle sums it all up in this powerful quote on temptations “I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is the victory over self.” Get inspired to overcome your temptations with these hard hitting quotes.

Quality Quotes

It is hard to say what quality really means. Is it perfection? Or is it matching of expectations? Here are quotes on quality from the wise. For a well developed perspective on quality, read these “quality” quotes.

Quotes on Reflection

Take time out to reflect on your self. Do you like what you see? Do you wish to change some attitudes, traits and habits? You can gain a lot of inspiration from wise quotes on reflection. It is never too late to change.

Discipline Quotes

Whether it is playing a game, or losing weight, or winning a beauty pageant, a great deal of self discipline is required. If you lack self discipline, here are some inspiring quotes.

Dignity Quotes

Self esteem is very important for personality development. Are you lacking in self esteem? If yes, these quotes are just right for you. Read inspiring words from Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, Bob Richards and other famous speakers on the subject of self esteem.


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