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September 5, 2011

My closest friend


He is like a brother to me. "A best friend is like a four leaf clover, hard to find and lucky to have."

My sincere appreciation to my best buddy! 🙂

This topic is dedicated to my closest friend, Suon Try with love. Thank you so much for everything that you have done for me. Thank you for your help and always being there for me. It is my honor to know you. I have been taught and energised, and they have touched my heart. I’m proud of that. I would like to show my gratitude and appreciate towards my dearest friend. Thanks for being such a wonderful friend for me. 

I just wanted… no, had to tell you how much you mean to me. I don’t know what I would do without a great friend like you. You are the number one best buddy I have ever had. Without you my pathetic life would not be worth living. I would climb the highest mountain, swim the deepest sea, and walk across the hottest desert just to tell you how incredibly special your friendship is to me.

I’m not sure what to say, but I want you to know I care.

I feel honor and gratitude to him for always ask me to join his trips, even though I have a little money.

My easy-going nature accepts more people into my life, but I choose to hang out with easy-going and understanding people only. Some friends are not easy to be their friends and some people are bad for my life! I don’t belong to difficult people world, and they don’t belong to mine.

I love him the most out of my friends. I will tell you what made him unique. He is someone I can turn to for help.

He is my homeboy. I have known this man for 14 years and maybe since 1997.  I hang out with him many times and we don’t even have a small argument. But some friends I just hang out with them a few time, I had some argument. I try to think something is wrong with me. I just realized that my personality is still like a mirror, whatever you did in front of it, you would see it reflected back at you. When my friends yell at me I will yell at them back. If they don’t provoke me first I will not provoke them. Some friends like to blame me if something is wrong, I am not kind of pointing finger person who like to blame others, I am just trying to sort it out. They keep mentions about his good deeds to me. Some friends like to talk behind me even defame about me. Usually, I am easy-going person, but with difficult people, I behave like difficult person to them. I will get rid of the friends that bad for my life. Other qualities she has that make him an outstanding man. He has not only has kind manner but also the way he is so nice to people. There was once time, he saw accident on the road, he stopped his car to help victims. Try is a kind man. I can get on well with him.

He is my soulmate.My closest friend’s family. Travelling with him enables me to learn somethings. When I travel with my friend’s family, it is not only about having fun but also learning something. For example, I observe how my friend raises his son and how he behaves towards his wife. So I can learn from him how to be a good father and good husband. 

My closest friend's family. My SBFF= Super Best Friend Forever. 18.03.2011

Remember, those whose lives you have touched and whose have touched yours are always a part of you!

I value friendship very much: Friends are an essential ingredient for happiness, and that we need their permanent company -when we eat, walk, or feel the need for conversation.

We’re buddies through thick and thin! 
Friends are supposed to stick together through thick or thin.

You know your true friend when you are in most need. A friend is person who stands by you when you are feeling down.


“Life is partly what we make it, and partly what it is made by the friends we choose.”

Remember almost all the fun times we had together.

I can be a good friend if my friends are kind, honest, forgive and not pointing finger. It takes kind, honest, forgive, and value friendship for achieving a long lasting friendship. 
Here is to the ties that bind and friendship. 



I drink coffee with him almost every afternoon. His nickname is Bao

I always talk about my problems at coffee shop. He is truly understanding person and he can give good ideas to me. An understanding person is someone who understands others and doesn’t judge them in any way, gives a person time alone when he or she needs it, doesn’t insult someone who’s just been hurt or stepped on, comforts others while giving them good advice that’s an understanding person to me. I don’t have girlfriend for the last few years but his company make me don’t feel much lonely. He inspires me! 🙂 

I believe that is the way a best friend should really be as well. Friends like that, these days, are very hard to find though. Seems sometimes people forget what being a friend really should be. Once again I absolutely love him.

If you’ve met or seen him personally, you know he’s a larger-than-life personality.

What a coincident! Speak of the devil (means a reference to someone who appears unexpectedly while being talked about.) He came to my house while I was writing this topic.

It is my honor to know you, Try. With lots of ♥love and hopes to a long lasting friendship. You are in my mind and in my heart. I’m Glad to have you! Just wanted to remind you how special you are!

With Gratitude,

Dara


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June 14, 2011

My Art of Living or Beauty of Life

This topic is dedicated to my lil bro Ashley Phoenix. Thank you so much for correcting my grammatical errors. It’s very sweet of you to help me in this matter. I couldn’t have done it without you! You saved my day. I appreciate that. I think this topic is the longest time I spent writing it out of all the topics I’ve written! 😀 My hope is that this topic, after the many hours that I’ve put into it, will inspire you and help you to live an inspired life and meaningful life. There’s a lot to live for in this life. :)

Living the inspired life means living with purpose, meaning, and intentionality. It means living out our callings. It means choosing to LIVE and not just be carried along by the circumstances of life. I Live the Inspired Life- I pray you’ll be inspired, too!

You cannot choose where to be born, but you can choose where to walkThe choice is always in our own hands!

I think a meaningful life consists of every aspect of life, good or bad. Learn to view everything as a worthwhile experience.

The art of living means you are directly and actively involved in constructing your life just as an architect plans and maps out the structure before executing the acting of building. Likewise you are the architect of your own life. Art means being creative and requires that you question the limits within which you actively live your life. “I really like my life. I’ve arranged my life so that I can do what I want.” This picture was taken from bakerthebrand.com

You only live once, but if you work it right, once is enough.

“Life is without meaning. You bring the meaning to it. The meaning of life is whatever you ascribe it to be. Being alive is the meaning.” –Joseph Campbell

To read requires patience! 😀 

At first I wanted to name this post “How to not be bored of life” Or “How to live a life that’s not boring”, but then I realized what I wrote here was just my lifestyle.

Today, in the modern life, most of the people face one common problem and that is stress or anxiety. An extreme amount of stress can actually affect your life and health. When it comes to reducing stress, then you can try the Art of Living. So in this article, I’ll share some small changes I would like to make to find more happiness in my daily life. I hope you’ll find something here that you can use to make your life better, too. For the last few years I have developed my sense of gratitude, understanding, patience, forgiveness and self improvement. I will also share my tips to help you design your destiny and get what you want.

Are you bored with your life? Are you looking forward to starting the practice of the art of living?

Cheer up. Nothing happens by chance. Open your mind to new ideas. Figure out what you want in life and learn how to ask for it. I feel that you must know the answer as well, right? If you are bored with your life, this is a good place for you to get some ideas. Seriously, it sounds like you haven’t got a thing to look forward to, and you are not happy with your life, so switch it up! Try something new.

Enjoy your life. It basically means that living a life that has a meaning. It has some relevance, to be happy & make others happy. A life full of joy where we are living it up for today and not for tomorrow. A life where life is itself satisfied.

HomeMake your home as enjoyable place to stay!

Improve the quality of your life with the help of the art of living. Everyone aims to achieve more happiness, love and peace in their respective lives. This fast paced world the pursuit of happiness seems an impossible idea. Instead people live a rather stressful life. Often people wonder about what they can do to reduce stress. If stress and tension is really ruining the quality of your life then read this and apply them in your life. Find out more about the practice the art of living and make a sincere effort in improving the quality of your life. 

Most people are not very much aware of the degree of stress that is unduly having a negative impact upon their lives. People learn to cope with stress and settle for limited happiness in the hustle and bustle of modern fast paced life. They start thinking that stress and tension are very common and this is the way of the modern life. Therefore instead of living the profound peace and joy which should be natural to the human experience, they continue with their stressful life. If you work really hard then you deserve the peace and happiness of mind. If you have a very busy lifestyle, then you can also start practicing this art of living. If it sounds interesting to you, then take some time out and discover your peace of mind with this practice, art of living. 

Dara’s motto is, “Being a hedonist is a philosophical way of my life. In other words, I like to live and behave in ways that I can get as much pleasure out of life as possible according to the belief that the most important thing in life is to enjoy oneself. Also, I like to learn, to experience and to explore life.”

                                               I feel fresh after I get my barber to wash my hair!

I shared this because I want to tell you about Beauty of Life! 🙂 Life is filled with Pretty Things, enjoy them!

Most of the money I have go to travelling and relaxation stuff such having my hair wash at barber shop, massage, steam, jacuzzi bathtub. I rarely buy new clothes. Looking at people around me, they have Iphone 4, Ipad 2, expensive digital cameras. I don’t have that latest products like them! But I am still happy with my life! 😀 Buy what you need, not what you want. I need to travel monthly, if not I am become a stressful and aggressive person.

I don’t know everything, but I do know one great thing which is how to live a happy and meaningful life. I am a very simple man. All I really want is everything. hehehee just kidding  I just wanna live my life to the fullest. Nothing more, nothing less. 

I really don’t know how to express myself. Well, I’m nobody! But you have no idea what I am capable of! You know who you’re dealing with. About to let you know. Heheeheehee 🙂 just kidding. I just act tough and that’s how I get through everything 🙂

I have a great passion for life. In my life, I have known many feelings from the most incredible time and proudest moment to the most painful and shameful. But right now, I don’t know about two important feelings, how it feels to be a married man and a father. 

Life is a great teacher, something you only learn by experience in life and no book can teach you that! I have learned many wonderful lessons. Before, I was a dare-devil when I got drunk and sad, I drove very fast, it could get me killed and others too, without realizing the value of life. That was the stupidest thing I did. Now, no more. One life is connected to many hearts. When you have a problem or lose your life, it can damage the heart of your friends, loved one, relatives and especially your parents. Don’t want to cause grief to my parents and other people. There’s a lot to live for in this life.

Life is wonderful! 🙂

Why? there are so many reasons that I and you can think of that makes our life wonderful. For me I am so blessed to have my lovely parents and I’m so grateful for the family and so many friends that love me and care about.

Choose your social environment carefully and express yourself. You’re an adult, why let others control your life?

Do you feel that you’re not understood by your social environment because of your lifestyle, your beliefs or your passions? Do you sometimes feel lonely and suffer from it? Be aware, you’re not alone and someone, somewhere, is eager to hear your voice!  https://dydara.wordpress.com/2011/03/07/the-man-the-boy-and-the-donkey/

I have a short attention span but when I have decided to do something, I put my all into it. I think it is good I can find a new thing I think it is good I can find a new thing. “Out with the Old, in with the new” I find myself getting bored easily with people but gratitude, love, obsession, fun, and friendship stand out above that thing and make me not get bored with them. Just because I have a short attention span doesn’t mean I can’t have a long one. I actually can pay attention for a long time unless things get really boring. 

My easy-going nature accepts more people into my life, but I choose to hang out with easy-going and understanding people only. Some friends are not easy to be their friends and some people are bad for my life! Not all people are difficult people. 😀

Living the inspired life means living with purpose, meaning, and intentionality. It means living out our callings. It means choosing to LIVE and not just be carried along by the circumstances of life. I Live the Inspired Life- I pray you’ll be inspired, too! My parents who inspired me to have a happy life! https://dydara.wordpress.com/2010/05/04/living-the-inspired-life/

Life is what you make it, so make the best of it. Or make fun of it, depending on your sense of humor! The same things that make a story interesting can also make a person’s life interesting. After all, aren’t we the main character in our own life’s story?

It seems way too easy these days to get caught up in the “passive life” and not going out and creating experiences. 

What should I do with my life?

This is a powerful question most of us ask ourselves at some point in life. What is it that I should do with my life? What is my purpose in life, my passion? 

Know what you want > Do what you love > Live your passion > Chase your dream > Be free > Stand for something > Get more out of life > Smile> Believe in yourself > Find the answer to the one question

With My  Prime Minister H.E. Samdech Hun Sen. Graduated with honor

Cambodia Prime Minister H.E. Samdech Hun Sen. It’s such a great honor of my academic life. Graduated with honors. It’s the small victories that keep me going.

What are you doing to make your life worthwhile?

I’ve discovered I need to help others and began doing so. I needed to test myself mentally and physically. I have done many things to prove myself something. Proving myself I can be a humble person and not afraid of any hardship!

Dara has always had a passion to help people have a happy life by sharing great sayings through his facebook and blog. I want to run a life worth living. I can tell you that I’ve discovered I need to help others and begun doing so. Our real mission is to find our own purpose as we live. We never know what it is. It’s just for us to search for it to make our existence meaningful. Being rich isn’t everything in life. It’s about living a healthy life, respecting others.

Knowing yourself leads to knowing your values. What we value shows up in how we spend our time, so spending your time on clarifying what you want, what you’re good at, and what it important to you is worth the investment.

We all like to feel that what we are doing counts for something that is really worthwhile. We like to see practical results. They are not spectacular; no one pays much attention to them; and we naturally feel that when we do something; we want it to be something that people can see and that they will think is worthwhile. And something that we ourselves can feel is worthwhile. And now, dear reader, what is really worthwhile in life? Is it only those things that make a great show? Is it only those things that the world counts great? There is one thing and just one that stands out above all other things in the human life, and that is faithfulness. No matter what our life may be, where we may be, now what is our situation, if we are just faithful it is sure to count, and to count a great deal. That is one thing that you can do: you can be faithful to yourself. You can live pure and keep shining every day, no matter what the circumstances maybe. Just remember to keep shining. That is the thing that counts.“Integrity is doing the right thing – even when nobody is watching!”

 My life is all about putting off certain things and putting on certain things. Let Go Of Worry, Let Go Of Discontent.

Just let bygones be bygones used to tell someone they should forget about unpleasant things that happened in the past, and especially to forgive and forget something bad that someone has done to them: Forget about the argument you had, just let bygones be bygones and be friends again.

THE CORE VALUES WE MUST TAKE ON TO ENHANCE LIFE

Make Good Use of Time
What are the values that can enhance one’s life? The first thing that we must take on is the wise use of time. Benjamin Franklin said time is the stuff that life is made of. We all have the same amount of timed, don’t we?

Everyone says, “How the time flies.”
The days go by and they are years, and the years finally become our whole life.

Each daily portion can be wasted, or it can be a pleasure, before it is gone forever.
If a review of the day concludes that we were too stressed, too busy, didn’t accomplish anything, didn’t have any fun, then it has been another lost piece of precious life.

Never look at what you have lost. Always look at what is left with you. The question in life is not how much time we have, but the question is what shall we do with it? We all have the same amount of time, but do we all do the same thing with it? 

“In the end, it’s not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away.”

Live One Day At A Time
Our lives are made up of a million moments, spent in a million different ways.
Some are spent searching for love, peace and harmony.
Others are spent surviving day to day.

But there is no greater moment that when we find that life, with all its joys and sorrows, is meant to be lived one day at a time. Whatever you do with it is how you are spending it, spending it foolishly or wisely.

The second thing that we need to enhance our lives is work—works of faith, works of obedience growing out of faith. Anna Robertson Brown said, “But not any kind of work. Ask yourself, is the work vital, strengthening my own character or inspiring others of helping the world.”  That’s what we must ask. What kind of work are we involved in? Will it enhance my character, my spiritual life? Will it help people? I know we have to rest and get our sleep and rebuild our energies, but many times we rest too much. We’re going to have plenty of time to rest from our works and our labors. But whatever we find that we put our hand to doing, let’s do it energetically, sincerely, devotedly, because we are not going to be able to do that when we go in the grave. You can’t do any work; you can’t write any articles.

Seek Happiness

The third thing we need to take on is happiness. I am a happy man in a happy world. Everything is depending on the way you think of it. If I think I am one of the happiest men on earth, then I am. I know it’s hard to make people think the way we do. The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way, you just go with the flow, my friends! 😀

I think if you’ll look up the origin of the word “happiness,” it goes back to the idea of happenstance, things that just happen. Some people cannot be happy in the happenstance of life; things have got to be perfect, the sea must be without a ripple or they can’t be happy. But that’s not what happiness is. Anna Robertson Brown said, “If you are not happy today, you will never be happy. Strive to be patient, unselfish, purposeful, strong, eager and work mightily. If you do these things with a grateful heart, you will be happy, at least as happy as it is given man to be on earth.” Are you really happy? Please notify your face, some of you.

Put on♥Love

The fourth thing that we must put on is love. Cherish love. One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love. Let your love shine through your actions and behaviors. Love is both an action and a feeling. The action of love generates a blissful feeling called by the same name. When the action stops, the blissful feeling is replaced with pain. Every person is capable of great love (and its opposite, fear, which generates all painful emotions such as hate, greed and jealousy). I think love is “Do for others more than you do for yourself.” In true love, there is no evil.


Are you ready to take the lid off of your life and live with abandon (don’t let anything hold you back. Try everything you want to, and don’t let fear make decisions for you. Go for it!)?

It’s now or never!!!

I am a man full of contradictions! 🙂 


The law of the influence to your life:

Character- who you are
Relationships- who you know
Knowledge- what you know
Intuition- what you feel
Experience- where you have been
Past success- what you’ve done
Ability- what you can do.

Good communication, knowledge, friendliness, money, optimism, and persistence can take you anywhere. 🙂

I am a man who is made up of a thousand kinds of men which makes me become an interesting person whose never boring life is full of thousands of ideas.:) Sometimes I am talkative, and some other time I am a quiet man. Usually, I like being around people but there are also times when I want to be alone. I am often easy to understand. Though, once in a while, no one can read my mind. I am a man of multifarious interests. Multifarious means having many aspects.

I hope my art of living can help you to find a new meaning of life and stress-free life. So what are you waiting for? Read on to find out more about the art of living. Apply some ideas from here that suits you.

Get a job and work your butt off! That would give you something to do/think about! Feeling like you have to please others makes you feel like a drone, like you aren’t living for yourself. Get crazy! (Disclaimer: Don’t do anything illegal) Cheer up! Your life is what you make it! Good luck and I hope you find something that makes you happy!

My art of living means live my life to the fullest and enjoying life with positive attitude.

It’s very hard to have a stress-free life, but people can learn to cope with problems and have less tension in their lives.

Cognitive Therapy – learning skills to use tools to see the positive of problems and not always the negative side and to constructively find a solution to the problem.

  Eating a well balanced diet. Diet is everything when it comes to having a healthy body and this includes foods that feed the brain (circuit board to the body.)

  Exercise is also very healthy for tension. Sports, jogging, bicycling, swimming, etc.

  Learning to relax by even just one hour a day of kicking back, shutting off the phone, TV and listening to soothing music or a hot bubble bath.

 It’s now or never! 

Well, looking at timeless advice from time to time helps me. And in this article, I’ll share some ideas of my favorite timeless thoughts on motivation; some thoughts that motivate and inspire me.

Living a happier life often seems to be about living your big dreams and making a lot of effort over a long period of time.

My greatest enthusiasm is travelling.
My second greatest enthusiasm is philosophy.

Enthusiasm= a subject or activity that interests you very much.

Travelling has been my Life!  (= the most important and enjoyable thing in my life) 

 Choosing some things you are passionate about and realizing there are no right or wrong answer to this. It’s really just about choosing and experiencing yourself in whatever the choice is.

Diversity is the spice of life which means go to different places, meet different people, and see different things. We only get one life so we owe it to ourselves to see as much of this beautiful world as possible. For many of us, lying on a beach for two weeks each year is just not enough any more. We want to see ancient monuments, extraordinary scenery, endangered wildlife, foreign culture, architecture and art- Places that give us the chance to grow and expand our horizons.

That’s my proud moment. ♥Memory last a life time! 🙂 My Life is very interesting when I am on youth exchange program.

Find out your enthusiasm! 

Discover your passion
Find your calling and you will start to experience the ecstasy of an inspired life.

Dedicate your energy to it
Passion + production = performance. People who love what they do, get the best results.

Build a business or find a job you love
Make your calling your work, and you never work a day in your life.

Motivation can be a huge help for you to achieve what you want in life, but how can you find all that motivation you need?

Philosophy has always been regarded as means of discovering the secret of happiness. 

In my life, I have learned a lot of wise words. These words are really useful for my life, and I think I can have a happy life and true contentment in life because of these words. If you can apply them in your life, it will be very useful for you, too. It works wonders for me. Hope it helps you as much as it has helped me. 😉

On 05th June 2011, I changed my name on Facebook to Gung Ho Zeal which means extremely enthusiastic about doing something. I want to remind myself about the opposite meaning of these words. Too much of something is bad. Hence, too much of a good thing can be a bad thing. Like most things, moderation is the key. Finding the balance is very important for me. I must bear this in mind at all times because I have an addictive personality.

“No one can hurt your feeling unless you let them or deserve it.” “Ignorance is bliss” But sometimes we have to think about their criticism. One good sentence cannot apply to all situations, but most of them do. Let good sayings, be our guides! If you can understand what I mean here and keep that in mind, you will become a happy person.

Quotations help us remember the simple yet profound truths that give life perspectives and meanings. When it comes to life’s most important lessons, we can all use gentle reminders.  All these are for reading. Then it will make sense when it practically comes to life.

“When you are happy, you live a day. When you are not, you still live one day. Why don’t we make that day a happy day?”

The golden Rules: “Treat others the way you want to be treated” “Do not do unto others what you do not want others to do unto you.”

Confucius “you should not do to others what you would not have them do to you.” These are gentle and heartfelt guides to the fundamentals of living a life rich in joy and contribution.

 Be a positive person

Angry & Miserable – Don’t Let It Be You!

Positive thinking brings inner peace, success, improved relationships, better health, happiness and satisfaction. It also helps the daily affairs of life move more smoothly, and makes life look bright and promising. Read more about positive thinking click here: https://dydara.wordpress.com/2010/03/16/positive-thinking-your-key-to-success/

Listen to the positive thought every time. The influence of words is timeless, let them work for you, and remember to always carry a smile in your heart. 

I’m a glass-half-full kind of guy. Learn to view everything as a worthwhile experience. I am of a cheerful disposition. I am a resilient man – I won’t be unhappy for long. Just give me a couple of days and I can get over almost anything.

I’m enjoying every minute of the single life while it lasts. I don’t want to be tied to Anyone! Don’t think that I don’t value in a relationship.

I am a man who enjoy almost every moment of my life. Even when I had a broken heart, I still enjoyed it. You know why? At least when you talk about it I know how it feels. I used to be a man whose broken heart needed mending. But recently, I have felt pretty awesome after reading many articles, writing several topics and hanging out with my friends. These things made me started to enjoy my old life. I’ve just realized that there are so many wonderful things for me to enjoy. Life is filled with Pretty Things. Enjoy them! Time heals all pain.

Before, money was not a problem. I liked to have massage therapy or body scrub. Some weekends I got my barber to wash my hair, or my dentist to clean my teeth. But now I can’t afford all these things. Life is filled with Pretty Things, enjoy them! I think I am not a typical Cambodian man and I was born in the wrong body because the way I think and behave are like Western people. But it doesn’t mean I don’t proud of my parents. I am most proud of myparents and I’m so proud to be Cambodian. Individuality is not a trait shared by everyone. I respect individuality of everyone. But some people don’t understand mine. The difference makes the world beautiful which means that everyone is unique in his/her own way and don’t look down on someone who is different from you.

 They can have beneficial effects on the human body. I mean after a bath in the jacuzzi bathtub you will feel better both physically and mentally because it is proven that this kind of bath is an excellent stress reliever.

 It is perfect for your body, too, because it has a positive effect on the blood circulation thanks to the jets of air and water that spray the skin and act as a stimulator for your body circulation. If you suffer from any kind of back pain or neck pain, then you will find your jacuzzi a gift from God because it will massage you with dozens of little fingers through the little opening in the bathtub.

                                                           Experience all that life has to offer!

                                              Life is not only about survive but also well-being.

Sometimes we have wilderness periods in our lives. I★♥love to drink alcohol on special occasions. But I’m not an alcoholic! 

Fine Scotch malt brand whiskey. How you drink it is more important than the brand you’re drinking.

I’ve never really cared much for materialism – Drink whisky with Australia steak are more to my taste (= what I like). Taste= Ability to appreciate what is beautiful! :D 
Some people don’t have their own taste that they don’t see something beautiful in their life.
“Everything has its beauty, but not everyone sees it.” ~ Confucius

It’s good to change one’s life style once in a while.

I was sick and tired of staying at my room so I went to stay at hotel for one night for playing video game and I could swim for free at swimming pool. I felt awesome! 🙂
For things, I have strong sense of appreciation or taste which means the ability to appreciate what is beautiful!
For people, I am grateful to those who have done something for me, and I always remember that! 😀

 It’s the power of gratitude. When you develop the habit of gratitude in any circumstances, you also surrender your obsessions with the controlling of everything in your life and let the door open for Divine interventions and creative solutions.

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”

Friendships: An Essential Part of Life! 😀 My closest friend’s family! 😀

I could have never imagined how two simple words as “Thank You” would transform my life. I have been blessed behind my craziest dreams. However, the most amazing blessing is the ability to live in the instant with peace and joy whatever the situation. When I say “thank you” for the present moment, I raise my awareness of the “now,” and I authorize myself to live fully in any moment. I’m not on autopilot anymore and believe me, this is a life transformation experience.

When you’re grateful for the good things in your life, you attract even more of blessings into your life. The more you experience this principle in your life, the more energy you can invest in making your dreams come true. 

 Build a big network:

Real life example

I have friends almost from all walks of life, who knows? Sometimes, bad people can come in handy. Good things happen to A Good person. I always behave in a pleasant and kind way towards everyone. I always give tips to those who deserve them. One night I was drunk, and my car accidentally scratched the car that I parked next to. I didn’t realize about it until the next morning. However, a man who worked at the hotel helped me polish that scratched car, so I didn’t have any trouble with that car’s owner.

Live the life of dreams! They have their dream jobs. Their businesses are successful. They live in that dream house of theirs, drive those luxury cars and have the perfect family! Doesn’t that make you envious? Maybe even angry?

It’s not your fault that you haven’t yet achieved the results you want in your life!

Because it’s something else that’s been preventing you from attaining the success you deserve.

How do I know this?

Because you work your socks off every single day in pursuit of your goals. You put your sweat, blood, and tears into your job, career or business to just ‘make you become *successful*, and then you’ll be able to enjoy the fruits of your labor!  It happens’.

Knowing your own strengths and weaknesses are very important keys for life.

Knowing clearly about what you want!

When I was a small boy I liked to play computer games, and my uncle asked “How do you know how to play it?” I replied that I read its instruction. And in the last few years I love playing video games. I am good at playing soccer video game because I spend a lot of time practicing it, so I know almost all the functions. My understanding about this really match Sun Tzu’s sayings

So it is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you can win a hundred battles without a single loss. If you only know yourself, but not your opponent, you may win or may lose. If you know neither yourself nor your enemy, you will always endanger yourself.”

This has been more tersely interpreted and condensed into the modern proverb:

If you know both yourself and your enemy, you can win numerous (literally, ‘a hundred’) battles without jeopardy.

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”
— Aristotle

 

Everybody is capable of doing something great in their life… they either don’t believe in themselves or think it’s impossible to make a difference. The greatest people of all time started out alone, trying to make a difference… and they did. You Can too…

Everyone cannot succeed in everything they do, but just keep trying. Failing does not mean the end of everything. You should keep yourself-belief, find out your weak point and improve it. Failing to achieve is not a failure, but losing your hope and motivation is a true failure.
For me, my leadership is not good. So I’ve tried to read a lot about it. I also read about anger management. Believe me, not everyone can understand and apply the words in their life. They can read but some people can’t apply them in their life, because they don’t have the tendency to improve themselves. The words I’ve posted here are just a bunch of words, but to some people, they are very useful words. Not everyone see them that way though! It depends on people’s tendency.

Let me give you example of concrete results in my life.  I used to have this thought that I am not good at everything but I am good at what I do. Why is that so? When I have decided to do something, I put my all into it. In other words, I am extremely enthusiastic about doing something. When I wrote this, I write it with passion. It’s a valuable piece of work for me. The time and thought I spent to search on the Internet to get more ideas to write this topic. My hope is that my topic, after the many hours that I’ve put into it, will inspired you. I’m looking forward to the future with a smile. I want you to be as happy as I am.

To be honest, even though I majored in English and I graduated 4 years ago, I’ve already forgotten many rules of English grammar, so academic writing is very hard for me. Sometimes I feel like my brain is empty, and I don’t remember anything. Maybe it’s because I am so carefree and drink too much alcohol. Now I am studying English grammar again. Anyway, I am good at reading and generating ideas. I like to tell myself repeatedly and unconsciously that I can be whoever I want to be if I work hard at it. I have the opportunity to challenge myself and to apply the knowledge I gained from my reading. I am proud to say that I’ve got many things that I wanted.

You only live once, but if you work it right, once is enough. Only one life to live, I want to make the most of it. How can we accomplish the most with the energies and powers at our command?

“Learn everything you can, anytime you can, from anyone you can – there will always come a time when you will be grateful you did.”

“There is only one success – to spend your life in your own way.”

– Christopher Morley

I can do whatever I want with my life. It’s my life. I’ve never been afraid of any deviation, and I don’t really care if you think I’m strange. I ain’t gonna change. And I’m never gonna care about my bad reputation as long as I know how to take a good care of my life. Do not step on other people’s shoes, do not spit on other people’s life, and do not force someone against his or her will. I go my own true way. That works a whole lot better. Sometimes I can hurt someone unintentionally. I am sorry about that! “Judge me all you want, but keep the verdict to yourself.” Don’t go the way life takes you but take the life the way you go.

Chealsea Match. I have come all the long way to watch this match. I was so excited, the atmosphere was amazing. I remember seeing the mascot walking around the ground and the girl with the Coke super cup come through cable before the match and was amazed at that day. The match was incredible and ended with Chealsea winning Thai Premier League all stars 4 – 0. I was especially impressed by all Chealsea’s players’ form. Excited Day 24.07.2011

:D The bad days make the good ones better! Let’s do something fun! :D Let’s create a memory! To a good life! :D

In my wildest dreams:

I guess I still have a lot to get out of my system before I do the whole marriage trip, you know? I’m one of those people that wants to try everything once before I die. And the good things twice.

Here are some of the things on my bucket list:

 Peace boat, travel around the Globe.  It’s the magic of risking everything for a dream nobody sees but you.


                                                                   Skydiving

Scuba Diving

                                                                Bungee Jump

                                                       Skinny-dip in the Ocean

Warnings:

Believe me! Whatever you do, it’ll cost something or you have to pay the price for that. No matter how much you change, you still have to pay the price for the thing you’ve done. The good things I do, it will pay me a very pleasant price:) and the bad things I do, it will pay me a very unpleasant price:( People will get what they deserve. So be careful what you wish for!

We need to consider our actions and what the consequences will be.

I am a believer in life-long learning. Love of learning is the guide of life. Real Learners are very open mind and very humble to learn from others and think that everyone can be their teachers. Everywhere is school, School without roof!

I learn a great deal from my online friends each day, for that I appreciate, thank you so much!

Life is an ice cream, enjoy it before it melts!

Life is a Journey. Enjoy the Ride!

Take care!

To a good life! 😀

Dara

May 12, 2011

My Dream Job

If I had this job, it would be like I get paid for doing something I love! ★I am not bragging or anything, I am not good at everything but I am good at what I do! 😀 My dream job about being a radio talk show host, I plan to read psychology books, read more about Khmer advice words. And ask my friends who works at Radio about how to be a good speaker on Radio. I would do this for my dream job but now my plan sucks! I like one man’s idea he commented I should volunteer first on Radio and then I have to make my name later. This is the best idea I got for this dream job.

Make Your Passion Pay You

I love the saying make your passion pay you”. It represents my whole outlook on life. Its meaning is simple: find what you love to do and turn it into an income producing job or business.

What I don’t understand is how so many people can go through their entire lives doing something they don’t like or care about. It’s really sad to see so many people living without hope.

I recently received an email from a woman who hates her job as much as I do (yea, that’s a lot!), and seemed to be at a loss for what to do. After reading her email a few times, it occurred to me that this woman had already given up on living her dreams or pursuing her passions.

The thing I struggled with the most was that she views her goals as unattainable. She talks about how her dreams could never be a reality and there is no way she could venture out and try to start the business she always wanted to.

When someone has given up on their dreams, it’s heartbreaking. There is no reason to ever give up on them. I won’t go into a litany of all the people who have turned adversity into success, but there are thousands of people who have met with tragedy, injury, or heartbreak, who have overcome the odds and have gone on to achieve great success.

Have you noticed that many successful people talk about passion? Let these inspirational passion quotes illustrate the importance of having passion in your life, and being passionate about what you’re doing.

When you have passion for your work, naturally you’ll be motivated and driven. You are even willing to go the extra mile without much prodding from others.

Why? Because you’re passionate about doing that thing, and you’re following what your heart wants you to do.

Let these passion quotes drive through the message of being passionate about living, and the importance of following your passion.

A great leader’s courage to fulfill his vision comes from passion, not position.
— John Maxwell

A strong passion for any object will ensure success, for the desire of the end will point out the means.
— William Hazlitt

Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.
— Author Unknown

May 9, 2011

When one door of happiness closes, another opens

This topic is dedicated to my beloved lecturer Mealea. Thank you so much for a lovely recommendation letter. That’s very sweet of you to help me in this matter. It means a lot to me. I’d like to say thank you again. I wish you all the best to you and your family. Take care! 😀

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” Helen Keller

A note of inspiration and encouragement to help some people keep striving towards their goals, hopes and dreams.


Basically it means that when something good in your life finishes you spend so long regretting its loss that you ignore other chances for happiness. It means do not waste time on negatives, because you might miss positives while you are sad.

I’ve learned that you can’t have everything and do everything at the same time– Oprah Winfrey

 You just cannot have it all.  Dy Dara

I am a man full of contradictions. I could go through it and show the numerous contraction of me. I have the best parents in the world but I have the most unsupported brother on the planet! 

When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but combines with my positive thinking make it enough!” Recently I am in a good mood, for some unknown reasons, I’m feeling fresh and so happy. Sometimes I drive on the way, I can’t stop smiling. Although I am a very happy man I still have some problems. I’m more of a Dale Carnegie adherent. Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions; it is governed by our mental attitude. He is completely right. So I always have positive thinking! 

My life is full of blessings and curses!  “When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile.”

Life is wonderful! 🙂
Why? there are so many reasons that I and you can think of that makes our life wonderful. For me I am so blessed to have my lovely parents and I’m so grateful for the family and so many friends that love me and care about. Or I can think “My life sucks!” I just turned 27 a few months ago. I still have no sense of direction. I now realize that I am 3 years away from 30. Not that 30 is old. I’m just not where I want to be in my life right now. No real job to do, that’s how my life is at present…I do not know what I’m doing, where I’m going, or even who I am. Many things I thought I was certain of have now become questionable. Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have. Dale Carnegie 

Choices In Life

Any change, any loss, does not make us victims.
Others can shake you, surprise you or disappoint you.
But they can’t prevent you from moving on. No matter where you are in life, no matter what your situation, you can always do something. On every turn of life, you will always have a choice. And that choice can be your power. The choice is always in our own hands!

You cannot choose where to be born, but you can choose where to walk!

I never feel alive like this for the last few years! 😀

I was a broken heart man who needs mending. Recently I have felt pretty awesome after reading many articles, writing several topics and hanging out with my friends. These things made me start to enjoy my old life. I just realized that there are so many wonderful things for me to enjoy. Life is filled with Pretty Things, enjoy them! Time heals all pain. A few years ago I was not so happy because my heart was broken but I had big budget for travelling. Right now I don’t have that much money but I still travelling cheap especially when money was the big issue but it got me thinking, I am happier than the last few years. You know what the happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

“For everything you have missed, you have gained something else, and for everything you gain, you lose something else.”

I’ll be happy once I’ve done this certain thing.
We all say this often not realizing what it brings. What if you can not have them you cannot have happiness? We look only to the future for our happiness. Letting life slip through our fingers in.

This wasn’t supposed to happen…it wasn’t meant to be…No matter how hard I try, I fail!

Life doesn’t always turn out exactly how you plan it. Sometimes it turns out better.

In 2007, I failed to get my student visa for my study in USA,  but one year later, I visited Australia and I was selected by the Ministry of Education, Youth and Sport as a national leader of Cambodian contingent, to lead a group of Cambodian youth delegates during the course of the Youth Camp for Asia’s Future 2008 program, in South Korea. Moreover, I can have good communication with my god brothers and many friends, but I just can’t have good communication with my own brother. I have the most unsupported brother in the world. But Don’t get me wrong, I don’t hate him! 😀

I love to travel

I love to travel

 

I was a NL of Youth Contingent!

                 


We must always remember that in this journey to our purpose, our success and our happiness that when a door closes it is not the end of the road but it actually might be a blessing in disguise. As we work towards or goals, wants and dreams we tend to hit obstacles, walls or things just do not go our way. Keeping our courage and facing those will allow us to come that much closer to what we are striving for. Understanding and keeping faith that when one door closes another will open can allow you to not miss those opportunities that are so often skipped over because of focusing on what we cannot control.

Hold on tight, keep your dreams and hopes close and never feel discouraged when a door closes as that just might be the reason success will come your way. Stay open, positive and happy with the results in life from your hard work, heart and passion. Make the best of the situation and only focus on what you can control.

You do not want to miss an open door because you are focusing too much on the closed door…

Philosophy has always been regarded as a means of discovering the secret of happiness. What really is that has the amazing power to make us happy? That gives us joy, pleasure, enormous satisfaction?
The question is how we can relate it on our daily life?
I can relate good sayings to my daily life, for example: No one can hurt your feeling unless you let them or deserve it. I just realized what this sentence mean. When we haven’t been in the situation, we don’t know what this sentence is about.
Remember that failure and disappointment are a part of life.
If you get only happiness then you don’t feel its value, do you?
Life is always full of ups and downs. We should not feel depressed when things are not going our way. Instead we should motivate ourselves to overcome the hurdle and enjoy life.

When all’s well with the world, we should not be overjoyed. Everything is temporary, life is always changing.

Look at the whole picture, never at parts of our life. And we should not be involved with each event. Take each incident as it happens and don’t attach too much importance to the outcome.

“A man can succeed at almost anything for which he has unlimited enthusiasm.”
Charles M. Schwab
Listen to the positive thought every time. The influence of words is timeless, let them work for you, and remember to always carry a smile in your heart.
Everyone cannot succeed in everything they do, but just keep trying. Failing does not mean the end of everything. You should keep yourself-belief, find out your weak point and improve it. Failing to achieve is not a failure, but losing your hope and motivation is a true failure. What I am saying here is not teaching you. I am not qualified to teach anyone, but I just want to share some ideas with you guys, audiences.  If you’ve never failed you’ve never tried.

I am a good many things, but a businessman I am not I mean I am not good at making money. It’s like a pain in the ass. The highest views of my blog is about 400 views per day and I want to make my money from my blog and I don’t know how! The people around me have everything, my brother and some of my friends make a lot money. How about me? I just save up my money every day to take my monthly trip. When I thought about it, this idea came to my mind “You can win life by all means..Yes..
If you simply avoid two things…
1. Comparing – with others
2. Expecting – from other
Life will be more beautiful!!” And I feel better! 🙂 09.12.2011

Life is a journey. Enjoy the ride! 😀 

I hope this writing can spread happiness to everyone!

April 7, 2011

Anger Management

Writing is important tool to use to enhance my self esteem.

I’m really obsessed with writing! 🙂 Even I was on holiday I still wanted to write for my blog. Usually I don’t write when I am on holiday. But that day I wanted to publish some topics. But I still could not make it because the Internet did not work, I tried many times. I follow this quote “Don’t Put Off Until Tomorrow What You Can Do Today” But I thought these topics can wait, so I just wrote some draft of something I came up with. I wrote something that I wanted to include in my blog in the yellow book. 03.04.2011

Angry & Miserable – Don’t Let It Be You !

The term anger management commonly refers to a system of psychological therapeutic techniques and exercises by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger & aggression can control or reduce the triggers, degrees, and effects of an angered emotional state.

One strategy for controlling anger is finding agreement with another person rather than conflict. The use of deep breathing and meditation can be used as a means of relaxation. Other interventions include learning empathy, stress management skills, forgiveness, changing how you speak about yourself or others and improving optimism. Other approaches emphasize experiential exercises that enable changes in attitude reducing the tendency toward anger. As the issue of anger varies from person to person, solutions need to respect and build upon each individual’s life experience.

You want brutality? I’ll show you brutality! hehehe just kidding, but seriously that was me before. When I hang out, I don’t want any trouble, but if  I have to, I will. As we get older, things seem less important.

I don’t hold a grudge against anyone. If I do, I do it in good way “the best revenge is success.” I live happier and more meaningful life than that people.
Who can tell me one benefit of the Anger? “Everything has its beauty, but not everyone sees it.”
Confucius

I think our angry behavior is like animal’s weapon to protect their self.

Anger is a natural human emotion and is nature’s way of empowering us to prevent our perception of an attack or threat to our well being. The problem is not anger, the problem is the mismanagement of anger. Mismanaged anger and rage is the major cause of conflict in our personal and professional relationships.

Domestic abuse, road rage, workplace violence, divorce, and addiction are just a few examples of what happens when anger is mismanaged.

You have no idea what I am capable of! You know who you’re dealing with. About to let you know. Heheeheehee 🙂 just kidding. I just act tough and that’s how I got through everything 🙂

I think I’m a nice guy. But I have a bad side, everybody does. Do not bring out my bad side. Do you understand what I am saying?

Before, my personality was like a mirror, whatever you did in front of it, you would see it reflected back at you. Because I have learned two phrases, my personality has changed from being a person that would be good to people who were good to him and bad to people that were bad, to a person that respects others and treat others as he would like to be treated. The two phrases is “treat everyone with politeness even those who are rude to you, not because they are not nice but because you are nice” If we do the same thing as rude people we are not different then them. And “If you can control one moment of anger, you can escape hundred days of sorrow”

Every mistakes made by one wrong decision. So make the right choice. 🙂

“While seeking revenge, dig two graves – one for yourself.”

Don’t let your today’s decision become your tomorrow’s regret!

Be patient. Because one moment of impatience can ruin a whole life.

I think I am more kind and easy-going then normal people but if you bring out the very worst in me, you will see one of the craziest men you’ve ever met. It rarely happens. My bad temper is probably much worse than some people’s bad temper. What is wrong with me? This time I’m serious. The most powerful weapon is the human soul on fire. Don’t get me wrong, I had been raised on a philosophy of non-violence. I don’t know how some people were raised, but my family never used physical force.

Some of the most unpleasant and difficult people I have been around spit on my life and I wanted to kick their ass. But I always have utmost patience, but it is like a time bomb ticking, wait to explode. And it is kind of a war inside my head. When someone say something in order to hurt my feelings I know how to play along and they will get what they deserve. What you want to do with me is what I want. If they beat me first I will beat them up. This is Not a Threat, It’s a Promise.You want some come and get some, but be careful what you wish for!!! it never happened because I am very easy-going and rarely spit on someone’s life first. Sometimes I can hurt someone, unintentionally. I am sorry about that! 🙂

I’m making myself sound bad, this is just one part of me, to know who I really am click here, https://dydara.wordpress.com/about

That is why I always keep these good sayings in my mind.

“I don’t want to cause my parents any problems.”

When I am angry with someone, I think of his or her good things that they did for me, or their good deeds rather than their bad deeds. These things make my anger disappear. Or I don’t like feeling angry, when I have that, I’ll feel unhappy. 🙂

I can find positive ways to relieve stress.
I have the courage to walk away from unnecessary conflict. Sometimes there is no need to prove you are a tough or brave person. There is always time for that. :
I like the way I am able to handle my anger. 🙂

If we keep these good sayings in our minds, we shall almost never get into trouble. In fact, that sayings, if followed, will bring us countless friends and constant happiness. But the very instant we break the law, we shall get into endless trouble.

All these golden words are  like my self-control. Let good saying, be our guide. it works wonders for me, I hope it helps you like it has helped me. 😉

self-control = ability to control one’s behavior and not act emotionally, command over one’s actions and feelings. Ex: Although angry she kept her self-control.

Before, I was a dare-devil when I got drunk and sad, I drove very fast, It can get me killed and others too, without realizing the value of life. That was the stupidest thing I did. ហេងដែរឆ្លងផុត!!! Now, no more. One life is connected to many hearts. When you have a problem or lose your life, it can damage the heart of your friends, loved one, relatives and especially your parents.
we need to consider our actions and what the consequences will be. Now I become a cautious man!

I am moody, messy, naughty, stubborn, weird, annoying,… whatever that is imperfect can describe me, 😦 but I know how to behave 🙂

not happyI don’t like feeling angry, being envious or hold a grudge against anyone! When I have that, I’ll feel unhappy. I always make my feeling as clear as water. It’s not in my character to be jealous. But sometimes, I need to teach someone a lesson for those who spit on my life! Positive thinking and forgiveness are the most important ingredient in the formula of happiness.

I’m looking forward to the future with a smile. I want you to be as happy as I am.

Forgive, it’s important. Your ability to forgive is gonna determine the quality of
the rest of your life more than anything else. The more mercy you have, the less hatred you have.

When you’ve done something wrong you can forgive yourself, why you can’t forgive others?

You will never truly be free unless you freely forgive. Hate is
like a chain around your neck that leads you to places you don’t wanna go.
It’ll lead you into darkness and desolation. You become a slave
to that hatred, and it’ll only lead to your own destruction.
You must break free.

Mahatma Gandhi “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

Oh, boy. I’m real scared. Bring it on. Be careful what you wish for!!!

When anger is mismanaged, the results can be catastrophic in both terms of dollars and the waste of human potential.

Some Psychologists recommend a balanced approach to anger, which both controls the emotion and allows the emotion to express itself in a healthy way. Some descriptions of actions of anger management are:

  • Direct This would include making behavior visible and making communication clear. The end result is to not become resentful, but rather, be honest about the feeling of anger and what is causing it.
  • Honorable This includes identifying the moral basis for the anger, and being willing to dialog around the reason for the anger. In short, this includes taking responsibility for actions.
  • Focused This means staying with the issue of concern, and not bringing up irrelevant material.
  • Courageous This implies careful and thoughtful self-examination. Additionally, this means being willing to admit when one is wrong or when a reaction is inappropriate.
  • Humility This means seeking the truth instead of merely being defensive, and self-justifying.
  • Forgiveness This means acknowledging the wrong in someone else’s behavior or words and then letting go of bitterness and resentment associated with that wrong.
  • Listen This means hearing the other person out, asking questions around their feelings and their reasons for their action.
  • Thankfulness This means finding elements related to the situation where one is genuinely appreciative and expressing that.

A common skill used in most anger management programs is learning assertive communication techniques. Assertive communication is the appropriate use of expressing feelings and needs without offending or taking away the rights of others. It is typically started with the use of “I” statements followed by a need statement. For example, “I feel upset when you don’t take my feelings into consideration when you talk about your past relationships. I hope you can be more thoughtful and know what you should and should not say the next time.”

Another approach is to enable a person to reduce his or her tendency to become angry. Experiential workshops such as those provided by the Alternatives to Violence Project can bring about changes in attitude and improve abilities to communicate and relate to others.

With regard to interpersonal anger, Dr. Eva L. Feindler recommends that people try, in the heat of an angry moment, to see if they can understand where the alleged perpetrator is coming from. Empathy is very difficult when one is angry but it can make all the difference in the world. Taking the other person’s point of view can be excruciating when in the throes of anger, but with practice it can become second nature. Of course, once the angry person is in conditions of considering the opposite position, then the anger based on righteous indignation tends to disappear.

March 31, 2011

THE GIRL OF MY DREAMS

THE GIRL OF MY DREAMS

I just realized If you have a great sense of appreciate you can write a very good compliment speech! Dy Dara 15.05.2011

Not a day goes by I don’t think about two people and two journeys! The two people are my ex-lover and the girl of my dreams. And the journeys are SSEAYP and peace boat, the journey in my dreams. The ex-lover and SSEAYP are the past, but you know, in life, the first act, always exciting. The girl of my dreams and the journey in my dreams are just the dreams. But these dreams give me smile and hope! 😀


THE GIRL OF MY DREAMS! If you look like the person above or this drawing looks like someone you know, please tell me, then I would love to hear from you. Thanks! 🙂

I’m not sure whether to tell her or not. I’m hesitating even as I write this topic. When I have decided to do something, I put my all into it. It’s a valuable piece of work for me, the time and thought I spent to write this topic. My hope is that she’ll understand my sincere appreciation to her. The perfect girl I’ve ever met. After the many hours that I’ve put into it, will reminds me of her that I’ll keep her in my memory. Remember, those whose lives you have touched and whose have touched yours are always a part of you! Just want you to know how I feel about you. I didn’t expect anything from you. “Expect Nothing And You Won’t Be Disappointed.” This is what I always keep in my mind.

What kind of guy/girl is your type?

 I have a verystrong feeling for one Pinay, what’s got into me? Recently, not a day goes by I don’t think about her. We don’t have anything much in common. She is more of discreet and very decent girl. But I am not. Love is funny, isn’t it?

I know when she read this she’ll think “I really don’t know what I did to you to be exalted like this.”

I haven’t had a girlfriend for the last few years but I don’t really feel lonely. My friends, travelling, Facebook, books, blog, movies, all these things keep me busy enough. That’s why I really enjoy single life. Right now I don’t have any girlfriend nor time for any romance but I have one girl in myheart.Before I wrote this topic, I was so excited and nervous at the same time. It’s not wrong to love a person. It never meant anything to you, anyway.
This Topic is dedicated to her with LUV. I just wanted to show my affection for her. I would like to express my sincere appreciation to my beloved friend June for her lovely personality. I’ve always liked her.

If you’ve met or seen her personally, you know she’s a larger-than-life personality. She is even prettier in person.


Posting your pictures here without getting your permission first, I truly am sorry. Dont hate me. If it was a mistake, it was a mistake of enthusiasm.

June Sinajon
She’s got the face of my dream girl!

She is just so perfect. Let me count the ways. She is sweet, she is kind, she is very decent, she is understanding, she is so smart and the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen. I am not saying these things to every girl.

Don’t wait until it’s too late to tell someone how much you love, how much you care. Because when they’re gone, no matter how loud you shout and cry, they won’t hear you anymore. There is no going back. Try it! If you don’t try, you’ll never know.


Some people will laugh when they read this, I don’t know why and I don’t care! 🙂 When someone laugh at you the best thing to do: laugh with them! 😀 Just don’t make fun of my feelings. It straight from my heart. I don’t care if what I wrote here sound funny to some people. 

Never mind people that don’t understand. They will once when they go through the same thing.

I am not mad at someone who doesn’t understand this, either, because I can’t expect them to understand when they haven’t been in the situation.

It’s better to lose your pride to someone you love than lose your love because of your pride. Be a friend of thousand, be a lover of one, give your smile to everyone but give your heart to only one.

I feel awesome when I am writing something from my good feeling for someone. 😀

Have you ever heard about Love Moves In Mysterious Ways?

It just happened to me!!!!!! 🙂

I just realized I have very strong feelings for her that I won’t be able to hide.
I don’t want to hold it in. I would like to talk about it and smile at what is on my mind. She is and will always live in my heart.


To June: You can think of this as a crazy story. Try not to feel embarrassed again. You got nothing to be embarrassed for!

I don’t chat or comment with her often. Because I think by doing that will annoy her. But I do check her facebook photo often.  I think I am good at find something to talk but with her I just run out of ideas.

I never know that Pinay girl were up to this beautiful. She impressed me the most out of Youth Camp Girls by her beauty and personality. 🙂


Luv her smile! 🙂

June, you’re such a romantic. That’s why I’ve always been so fond of you.

She’s beautiful, smart, talented, and seems almost ideal female. She is truly a sweet person, …whatever that is perfect can describe her! 🙂

I like the way she smiles, talks, the way she express her ideas and everything of her.


Other qualities she has that make her an outstanding woman. She not only has the outer beauty but also has the inner beauty. I like the way she is so nice to people. If a person is really a beautiful, loving, and caring person inside and does their best to take care of themselves, they will be loved by others. 

She is currently studying for a Master’s degree in South Korea. (on scholarship)

She is the girl of my dreams. you are truly a sweet person, dont ever forget that! 🙂

How did I know her?

We participated in Youth Camp for Asia’s future 2008 in South Korea. We were on a bus going somewhere that I first met June and it was immediately clear to me that she is a great woman. 

To me, June has a great charisma! 😀

One thing I love the most about Youth camp was: know her.

She is the girl of my dreams:

– That’s just what mydream” girl looks like.

–  Has an amazing smile.

Smart girl.

It is my honor to know you, June. With lots of ♥love and hopes to a long lasting friendship. You are in my mind and in my heart. I’m Glad to have you! Just wanted to remind you how special you are!

From your public admirer! 🙂 (Former Secret Admirer! 🙂 )

Dara.

I am so happy when I see your name on my notifications! 🙂 When I see her comment on my FB I feel so happy. 😀

She replied after read this topic: Hey Dara, you’ve violated a lot of my FB rights, like taking and posting my photos without my permission… Hahaha! But what can I do?… =P Again, all I can say is thank you. I’m flattered.. BUT I’m so far from being “perfect”… And definitely NOT the “most beautiful woman” you’ve ever seen! LOL! And I’m not yet taking my master’s.. I’ll be taking it in September. 😀


I tagged her:

she wrote: I remember when we were on a bus going somewhere… I was sitting beside Jayson and you were sitting right next to the other Dara (How is he?? The guy who studied law…) and you told us you had been to the Philippines… to Parañaque to be exact, and some parts of Metro Manila I believe… And then you played back a duet by Kristine Hermosa and Jericho Rosales from your phone which Jayson and I had never heard before… Remember??? Hehe!

Me: Yeah absolutely I remember that. it’s actually our first conversation that ever took place.oh yeah other Dara I dun no abt him.yeah u got a good memory June 🙂 and that time you gave me one piece of small cake and we talked about your face, and I said dun look like truly Pinoy.hahahah !:)

It is nice to revise our memory and can be fun as well !Ha hahaha:)
She replied: Oh I don’t remember the cake part! Hahaha! =D

She wrote: I think you have a great passion for life and you just can’t hold it in.. You can’t contain it so you share what you know about life to as many people as possible through your blogs… You are a people person… always trying to connect with those who happen to cross your path. 😀
I replied: June: wow, you really know me. I’m Impressed with Your words here. Yeah I like to share! 😀 Happiness always looks small when we hold it in our hands but when we learn to share it, we realize how big and precious it is ! I don’t think I am really a people person. Miss you, take care, June 🙂
From Your Secret Admirer!
PS: Don’t Feel Embarrassed by my words here, ok 😀
I replied again: you are really an understanding person! 😀 you have many talented. That’s amazing. Any other hidden talents I should know about?


March 28, 2011

The story of my life

I am so proud of my parents. Because of them, I have been able to live the life I want to.

There’s a lot to live for in this life.

This is what I’ve done with my life so far. These were stories that really gave me an insight as to who that I was and what made me the person that I presently am.

The story of my life! 🙂

This topic is dedicated to my lovely parents and friends. Thank you so much for everything that my parents and friends have done for me. Thanks for being such a wonderful parents for me. I have been taught and energised, and they have touched my heart. I’m proud of that. Thanks to my parents who have done many good things to me and have added value to me. I gratitude and appreciate my parents. I would like to show my gratitude and appreciate towards my parents, who forebear pain and discomfort in bringing me up to adulthood. I will always be indebted to them.

This topic is also dedicated to everyone that I know. Thank you so much for everything that you guys have done for me. It is my honor to know you guys. With lots of love and hopes to a long lasting friendship to those that value my friendship. You are in my mind and in my heart. I’m Glad to have you! Just wanted to remind you how special you are!. You guys are one of the best gifts that ever happened to my life. I’m proud of that.

What I’ve been writing here, I am not bragging or anything.

Life is wonderful! 🙂 Why? there are so many reasons that I and you can think of that makes our life wonderful. For me I am so blessed to have my lovely parents and I’m so grateful for the family and so many friends that love me and care about.

Living the inspired life means living with purpose, meaning, and intentionality. It means living out our callings. It means choosing to LIVE and not just be carried along by the circumstances of life. I Live the Inspired Life- I pray you’ll be inspired, too!

“Living the inspired life involves appreciating the little things in life, like stopping what you were doing to smell a pretty flower or noticing the beautiful blue sky. It’s taking time to show the people in your life that you love them. It’s choosing to take risks and moving forward without fear. It’s the way to live – full of freedom and joy.”

When I have decided to do something, I put my all into it. It’s a valuable piece of work for me, the time and thought I spent to make this video with a romantic song. My hope is that my video clip, after the many hours that I’ve put into it, will reminds me of everyone that I know and keep them in my memory. Remember, those whose lives you have touched and whose have touched yours are always a part of you!

My life is more than a one man show! The people around me, parents, siblings, grandparents, friends etc all have played a role in my life’s story. My interactions with them and how they had influence on my life. What I’ve learned, heard, seen, done, experienced etc .

I really don’t know how to express myself. Well, I’m nobody! But you have no idea what I am capable of! You know who you’re dealing with. About to let you know. Heheeheehee 🙂 just kidding. I just act tough and that’s how I got through everything 🙂

If you bring out the very worst in me, you will see one of the craziest men you’ve ever met. This time I’m serious. The most powerful weapon is the human soul on fire. That is why I always keep these good saying in my mind “If you can control one moment of anger, you can escape hundred days of sorrow.” and ” When anger rises think of the consequences.” I am talkative if you like my talk. I think I am a man who respects for almost everyone. Some people don’t respect me and I don’t respect them back I don’t care who they are. Opps, I am a bit outspoken. Sorry if I’m being too direct. I apologize for any offences caused by my words.

I thought I needed to know what it was like out there, in a real world. So I went out there and I lived it. My easy-going nature accepts more people into my life, but I choose to hang out with easy-going and understanding people only. Some friends are not easy to be their friends and some people are bad for my life! I don’t belong to difficult people world, and they don’t belong to mine.

I think I was born in the wrong body because the way I think and behave is like Western people. But it doesn’t mean I don’t proud of my parents. I am most proud of my♥parents and I’m so proud to be Cambodian★
My life is more than a one man show! The people around me, parents, siblings, grandparents, friends etc all have played a role in my life’s story. My interactions with them and how they had influence on my life. What I’ve learned, heard, seen, done, experienced etc.
Life is an ice cream, enjoy it before it melts!Life is filled with Pretty Things, enjoy them!

You only live once, but if you work it right, once is enough. :
Life is a great teacher.
In the end, it’s not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away.


Thanks to All Those That Appreciate a chapter of my life story. 🙂

March 18, 2011

Taking good care of your life!

I just called to say...Take Care! 😀

I’m not sure what to say, but I want you to know I care.

You only live once, but if you work it right, once is enough. Life is a great teacher! There’s a lot to live for in this life. Life is an ice cream, enjoy it before it  melts! Youth is a once in a lifetime gift. Make it memorable and meaningful. I don’t want to miss anything good in my youth.

When I hurt myself from drinking too much alcohol, I realized that I didn’t know how to take care myself. And then I came up with the ideas to write about taking care of life.

The thing I♥love♥about writing a blog is that it allows me to talk to many people I will never personally meet.
I had a passion to add value to what people have taught me and energized me to write. I am not trying to be pathetic here. I’m rather fond of writing. I actually regard it as fun. I feel awesome when I am writing something from my  experiences. I’ve made a lot mistakes in my life but I’ve learned from them, lesson learned. There’s more to learn. Don’t copy my bad actions. what’s done cannot be UNDONE.

My closest friend's family. My SBFF= Super Best Friend Forever. 18.03.2011

My easy-going nature accepts more people into my life, but I choose to hang out with easy-going and understanding people only. Some friends are not easy to be their friends and some people are bad for my life! I don’t belong to difficult people world, and they don’t belong to mine.

Two people hang out together, the good person and the bad person. If the good person has more influence, the bad person will become the good person, if not, the good person will become the bad person. Some people are bad for your life! Sometimes you don’t know what you are getting yourself into.

I always say the words take care of yourself to my friends. I just realized that words mean be careful, don’t get into trouble, take good care of myself. It basically means to eat healthy, and live healthily so I don’ t get sick from neglecting my needs or health. And also the obvious things like not to do anything potentially dangerous. I used to drink alcohol a lot and I could not sleep at regular time and I thought I am a man, it was ok. Right now I know it is not about proving myself a man, it is about taking good care of myself. If I am not taking care of my health, I will hurt myself. From now on I will take good care of myself.

Today I’ve learned a very important lesson. Someone told me that “One woman is dead because of heart attack and she was too tired from travel without having asleep. She was a bit overweight. Who knows what we called khol kor in English? I was so sorry to hear that. This made me think I should relax when I am tired. 31.12.2011

I start to love my health! 🙂 Before, I watched 3 movies a day but now only one movie. No need to
rush! Movies can wait me. It is bad for my eyes when I watch too much. When I was younger, I was wild and extreme. I could drink one liter of whiskey in a few hours. I could talk on the phone for 8 hours per day for a few months (This could damage my brain). I didn’t fall asleep for a few days. I needed to test myself, mentally and physically! 🙂 What I did, was not the quality of life. Some people that I hang out with, they are also extreme! 🙂

 Too much of something is bad. Hence, too much of a good thing can be a bad thing. Like most things, moderation is the key. Finding the balance is very important for me. I must bear this in mind at all times because I have an addictive personality.

I★♥love to drink alcohol on special occasions. But I'm not an Alcoholic! I know drinking alcohol is self-destruction. But I know my limits.

Now I don’t want to compete in drinking battle. I will lose for sure, but I win for my health. 🙂

Learn how to do for others more than you do for yourself. With that said; but, if you didn’t know, or didn’t care about doing something special for yourself once in a while, you then wouldn’t know how to, or what to do for others, either. 🙂

 My brother called me ”The Carabao” អ្នកតស៊ូដ៏យ៉ាប់យឿន( that means I am tough because sometimes I had party until morning and I was able to go to school or sometimes without sleep I still can drive to other cities!

Before, I was a dare-devil when I got drunk and sad, I drove very fast, it could get me killed and others too, without realizing the value of life. That was the stupidest thing I did. ហេងដែរឆ្លងផុត!!! Now, no more. One life is connected to many hearts. When you have a problem or lose your life, it can damage the heart of your friends, loved one, relatives and especially your parents.
we need to consider our actions and what the consequences will be.

Taking good care of your life, my friends! 🙂

March 11, 2011

Life is wonderful or Life sucks

My condolences to Japanese people, I feel horrified, devastated, in shock to watch powerful quake hits Japan. May God bless Japan and every nations on earth. 11 March 2011

This blog is dedicated to my lovely parents and friends. Thank you so much for everything that my parents and friends have done for me. Thanks for being such a wonderful parents for me. I have been taught and energised, and they have touched my heart. I’m proud of that. Thanks to my parents who have done many good things to me and have added value to me. I would like to show my gratitude and appreciate towards my parents, who forebear pain and discomfort in bringing me up to adulthood. I will always be indebted to them. My Mother, My Hero: The most special person in my life! My Parents are the best gifts that ever happened to my life. I’m proud of that. I am most proud of my parents. Because of them, I have been able to live the life I want to. I love spending time with family! I love my parents with all my♥heart♥

Youth is a once in a lifetime gift. Make it memorable… and meaningful. Love me for who I am, not who I was.

This blog is also dedicated to all those who wish to empower their lives through the use of self-improvement messages. Please feel free to explore. I hope you will find something that inspires you.

You might be wondering why I am so passionate about writing. The thing I love about writing a blog is that it allows me to talk to many people I will never personally meet.
I had a passion to add value to what people have taught me and energized me to write.
I have written this blog, it is not about impressing anyone. It is about sharing with someone who likes reading, improving my English and I can remember something as well.
The thing that are rewarding to me now is I can move on and have a true contentment in life.

My father always said “If you don’t swim you don’t feel tired.” He means if I don’t explore life I am not going to know what life is. He also means Life Is A Great Teacher. These words really meet up with my view. You’ve probably heard the saying that diversity is the spice of life. It means go to different places, meet different people, and see different things.

Life is a great teacher!

This is the last topic for the writing part of my first year of blogging as a hobby. Would love to hear your thoughts about it in the comments. 🙂

I created my blog on 14 March 2010.

My name is Dy Dara, from Cambodia. I am 27 years old. I do not wish to be any other age because my life at 13 was nowhere as exciting and enjoyable as my life at 27. I enjoy every aspect of life. I am the kind of man who has a thousand kind of men in one body, so that’s make me become not a man of so boring person and The never boring life of me with a thousand ideas.

Happiness, for me, is defined by the way we think. If I think I am the one of the happiest men on earth, I am. I know it’s hard to have people think like I do. Sometimes I cannot find true contentment in life as well. But that’s how a meaningful life consists of every aspect of life, good or bad.

Life is wonderful! Why? there are so many reasons that I and you can think of that makes our life wonderful. For me I am so blessed to have my lovely parents and I’m so grateful for the family and so many friends that love me and care about.

Or I can think “life sucks!” I just turned 27 a few months ago. I still have no sense of direction. I now realize that I am 3 years away from 30. Not that 30 is old. I’m just not where I want to be in my life right now. No real job to do, I just help out in my parents’ biz. I don’t like to work for other people, I ain’t big on having a boss. 🙂 that’s how my life is at present…I do not know what I’m doing, where I’m going, or even who I am. Many things I thought I was certain of have now become questionable.

Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have. Dale Carnegie

Philosophy has always been regarded as a means of discovering the secret of happiness. What really is that has the amazing power to make us happy? That gives us joy, pleasure, enormous satisfaction?
The question is how we can relate it on our daily life?
Remember that failure and disappointment are a part of life.
If you get only happiness then you don’t feel its value, do you?

Do you have favorite quotes that you depend upon in a crisis, special quotes that motivate you to move forward, quotes that you are teaching your children?
For me: No matter how hard it is, that time will pass! :D
My favorite Khmer saying:

រឹង សូមអោយ រឹងប៉ឹង មិនមែន រឹងរូស

បើ ទន់ សូមអោយ ទន់ភ្លន់ មិនមែន ទន់ជ្រាយ។

អស់កម្លាំងចិត្ដ នាំអោយអស់សង្ឃឹម នាំអោយអស់ភាពតស៊ូ!!!

Because of my blog, I’ve learned something about human behavior:

Have You Ever Wondered Why people act the way they do or you behave as you behave?

Everyone behaves the way that they do because they are acting through a filter of the rocks (values, assumptions, beliefs, and expectations) that they carry around.

To see this interesting topic @
https://dydara.wordpress.com/2010/11/26/self-awareness-is-the-key-to-change-and-lasting-happiness/

When you are happy, you live a day. When you are not, you still live one day. Why don’t we make that day a happy day! 🙂

There are a lot of problems with living a life designed to fit everyone else’s expectations of you, though. The top three, as I see it, are:

.You can’t please everyone
.Their expectations may be based on a narrow, inaccurate view of you
.Your values could be wildly different from theirs.

https://dydara.wordpress.com/2011/03/07/the-man-the-boy-and-the-donkey/

Neil Armstrong "THE FIRST MAN ON THE MOON"

Everybody is capable of doing something great in their life; they either don’t believe in themselves or think it’s impossible to make a difference. Many people worked so hard to get big name on the international stage. The greatest people of all time started out alone, trying to make a difference… and they did. You can too…

Everyone cannot succeed in everything they do, but just keep trying. Failing does not mean the end of everything. You should keep your self-belief, find out your weak point and improve on it. Failing to achieve is not a failure, but losing your hope and motivation is a true failure. What I am saying here is not teaching you. I am not qualified to teach anyone, but I just want to share some ideas with you guys, audiences!

Thank you! 😀

March 7, 2011

The Man, the Boy, and the Donkey

Acting like I don’t care about some people, when deep down I really care♥ about my parents, lover and friends.

I like to do whatever I want. But whatever I do, I just don’t step on other people's shoes, do not spit on other people's life and don't force someone against his or her will. I can do whatever I want with my life. This is my life. 🙂 Sometimes I can hurt someone, unintentionally. I am sorry about that! 🙂

Many people find me weird, I’ll tell you what. I have a happy and meaningful life than those who said that. 😀 13.03.2011

Is there a story affect your life?

Sometimes, I wonder why some people are so good to me, I don’t have anything for them and I don’t understand what I did, to make some people dislike me. I don’t know why and I don’t care. I’m Just Trying to Do the Best I Can. I cannot please everyone. Judge me all you want, but keep the verdict to yourself.

It’s your life and you’ll live it the way you want to. We live only one life, live it YOUR way!!

Stop Trying to Please Everyone: Live Your Way. Don’t get me wrong, you should know how to get along with people as well.

Shrug something off (as something) and pass something off (as something) to ignore something unpleasant or offensive as if it meant something else.

Choose your social environment carefully and express yourself

Stop justifying yourself or explaining your heart’s desires to people who are prisoners of conventional wisdom and status quo. Don’t blame them either, they simply won’t understand you because they’re conditioned by their own limiting beliefs.

Some people were all somehow unconventional and expressed similar experiences:

  • They were considered a bit crazy by their family, colleagues or society.
  • They had a dream they were obsessed with.
  • They realized that their social environment was not supportive enough
    for their vision to become a reality.
  • They found the courage in themselves to follow their own path.
  • They quit their country to live their dreams somewhere else.
  • They rebuilt their social network.
  • They expressed no regrets.                                                                                                                                All these extraordinary individuals had to face incomprehension and hostility from their environment because of their ideas or lifestyle. However, they overcame these limits and designed the life they had dreamed of.
  • Whatever you dreams, lifestyle or path in life, you need a positive and supportive social environment to express yourself and grow. Our society doesn’t always encourage differences:
  • Uncommon beliefs and ideas
  • Alternative lifestyles
  • Unconventional physical appearances
  • Religious expression
  • Cultural differences
  • If you are in this situation, do not isolate yourself and let frustration grow. You may not be understood by your family, your colleagues or society, but you have received the birthright to be different and unique; It’s printed in your DNA. Even if your DNA may not determine your beliefs or preferences, you are you, and for that reason you deserve to express your personality and be happy.Sometimes, the best solution to find a supportive social environment is to redesign your own. You don’t necessarily need to quit your hometown or your country, but you can :
    • Carefully choose supportive and respectful friends.
    • Get a coach who will listen and help you express your potential.
    • Build your own community on Internet.
    • Advertise to meet people with same interests or lifestyles
    • Join or set up a mastermind group of people who have similar objectives in order to share ideas, strategies, successes and failures and grow together.

    Choose your environment carefully and don’t let anyone or anything stands on your way to happiness. This is your birthright!

    Once for all, accept who you are;  you may not be perfect according to social standards, but you are you, and there is no other way to live your life.

If u don’t Truly know me then don’t judge me. if u think u know me n u don’t like me, then plz make ur way out of my life. Haters are not needed. Thks 😀
The more mercy you have, the less hatred you have. Peace V

You can please some of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time.

Maybe This is the reasons why people are like this:

They are close minded. They think that everyone must follow the same template for life: go to school, get a stable job, get married and have kids. If you deviate, you are deviant. I’ve never been afraid of any deviation. I don’t give a damn what other people say. I go my own true way. That works a whole lot better.

They chose that path for some selves and now they regret it. So if they see someone else having the guts to not blindly follow that path like sheep unlike them, it threatens their own sense of self. they don't want people to have the guts to do what they couldn't do - i.e. live their own lives according to what they feel is right for them rather trying to pretend they're happy about it.


There are a lot of problems with living a life designed to fit everyone else’s expectations of you, though. The top three, as I see it, are:

.You can’t please everyone
.Their expectations may be based on a narrow, inaccurate view of you
.Your values could be wildly different from theirs.

Have You Ever Wondered Why people act the way they do or you behave as you behave?

Everyone behaves the way that they do because they are acting through a filter of the rocks (values, assumptions, beliefs, and expectations) that they carry around.

Individuality is not a trait shared by everyone. I Respect the individuality of others and be accepting of individual differences. But some people don’t understand mine. Some people find me weird. I am a carefree person, I don’t care what others think about me because I can’t control what others think of me. “judge me all you want, but keep the verdict to yourself.” But whatever I do, I just don’t step on other people’s shoes and do not spit on other people’s life. I can do whatever I want with my life. This is my life. 🙂 And despite all this little controversy that I have with my personality, I still remain to be a Simple man. Overall I am happy with myself! 🙂

Some people like to judge and talk behind someone’s back. But I don’t like to judge people. What they are doing is their business. But if they need my help if I can I will. And If they spit on my life, it gonna be my business I have to take care of. When I see someone is good at the first place, I don’t say he or she is a good person, someone can pretend to be a good person, and when I see someone is rude or aggressive, I don’t say he or she is a bad person, because may be he or she just had a bad day. when it comes to judge people I have to spend a long time to get to know them well before judge that people, so it is not gonna be no misjudge.

What I am trying to say here is not to get more people like me or get more friends, I think I have enough friends that keep me busy enough!
Just want to share some ideas! 🙂

Personality is the traits that make you an individual. Character is an universal attribute. Like honesty or respect. You are born with personality but develop character. A person’s interests, can reflect his
or her character and personality.

The difference makes the world beautiful. It means that everyone is unique in his/her own way and don’t look down on someone who is different from you.

It’s easy to stand with the crowd. It takes courage to stand alone.

“Everything has its beauty, but not everyone sees it.” ~ Confucius
Only understanding, easy-going and open minded people that can see the beauty of my personality. My easy-going nature accepts more people into my life, but I choose to hang out with easy-going and understanding people only. Some friends are not easy to be their friends and some people are bad for my life! I don’t belong to difficult people world, and vice versa.

I just can’t expect them to understand me.

Knowing your value, if a man/woman doesn’t see that, he/she doesn’t deserve you.

You’ll understand when you get that level.

I read this story ” The Man, the Boy, and the Donkey” in Khmer language about ten years ago. I’ve applied this moral of the story in my life. Those words were spoken to me. You are born with personality but develop character.

You can’t please everyone

Once a man and his son were walking to the market with their donkey. A countryman noticed that the donkey was walking alongside them and laughed, “You fools, what is a donkey for but to ride upon?!”

So the man decided to put his son on the donkey and they went on their way. A little while later they passed a group of men. One of them said, “See that lazy youngster, he lets his father walk while he rides.”

The man then ordered the boy to get off, and got on himself. But they hadn’t gone far when they passed two women. One of them said to the other, “Shame on that lazy lout to let his poor little son trudge along.”

The man didn’t know what to do at first. He thought and thought and finally decided to put his son up in front of him on the donkey.

Soon they reached the town. There too the passers-by began to jeer and point at them. The man stopped and asked them what they were scoffing at. The people said, “Aren’t you ashamed of yourself for overloading that poor donkey?”

The man and the boy got off. They had to think of what to do all over again. At last they had an idea. They took a long pole and tied the donkey’s feet to it. Then they raised the pole to their shoulders and carried the donkey upside down.

They went along amid the laughter of all who met them till they came to the market bridge. The donkey accidentally got one of his feet loose and kicking out, caused the boy to drop his end of the pole.

In the struggle that followed, the poor donkey, with his forelegs tied together, fell over the bridge and drowned.

Moral

When you try to please everybody, you won’t please anybody.

Their Expectations May Be Based On A Narrow, Inaccurate View Of You

People make snap judgements in life: they might meet you briefly, and proceed to offer all sorts of advice based on an inaccurate assessment of who you are.

Families often fail to recognise how you’ve changed and grown over the years. They also tend to label you – and it’s easy to end up conforming to these labels because you believe them. “Oh, Bob’s always been the lazy one” or “Sue has her head in the clouds” or “Tom never could focus on anything.”

Frankly, you’re the only person in the world who knows what’s happening inside your head. You might have a huge amount of potential that no-one else recognises. Your parents or your friends might have pigeonholed you – but you know there’s more to you than what they see. Even if you do have plenty of habits and characteristics that you’d like to change, you have the ability to do that.

Your Values Could Be Wildly Different From Theirs

To me, this is the biggest problem with trying to meet other people’s expectations: they might have a completely different agenda to yours. Perhaps your dad thinks the most important thing you could do with your life is have a very secure career, whereas you value creative self-expression through poetry or art. No wonder that your dad wants you to “get a proper job – make the most of yourself” – but if you follow his advice to become an accountant or doctor or lawyer, you’re likely to be making yourself miserable.

Sometimes, you need to get clear about your own values and priorities: then you can figure out what you want to refocus your life around.

Your parents might think you’re crazy. Your friends might laugh at you. Your brother might call you a wishy-washy bleeding-heart hippy. Your old school pals might say you’ve sold out. Don’t ignore their advice … but don’t be afraid of what they think.

Stop Worrying About What Other People Think

Focused on things you are passionate about.

This book  “What Do You Care What Other People Think?” – a biographical account of episodes in Richard Feynman’s life. Those words were spoken to him by his wife, and perhaps they carry some indication of why Feynman became one of the best known scientists of the 20th century: he didn’t worry about what people thought of him.

Does your mental soundtrack go anything like this?

–    I don’t want to go out tonight, but Dave will think I’m boring if I stay in.

–    I can’t read a personal development book on the train – people will think there’s something wrong with me.

Just as no-one else in the world knows what goes on inside your head, you can’t lift a flap and peek inside their skull either. It really is a waste of time to worry what other people will be thinking: you’ll probably guess wrong, and (even if they put their thoughts into words, as a negative comment), their thoughts are very unlikely to have any real effect on you.

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